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Wake-Up Call: It\\\’s Time to Change
By Bests | August 5, 2008
“It is not enough to just
verbalize or visualize your goals. You must have a plan and take steps to
create what you want.?
Have you had a wake-up call recently, such as
an unexpected health crisis, a separation or divorce, or the loss of your job?
Perhaps you just feel stuck or restless? Are you yearning for change?
These situations and emotions come with
midlife, and this transition can be like falling down Alice’s rabbit hole: frightening, yet at the
same time invigorating. Some people come out terrified while others are
transformed. Some people renew their passion for a new life with gusto, and
others ease along, making small but notable changes.
There is no right way or wrong way to
transition through midlife. At some
point, you may know you want to change your life, but you may have no idea
where to begin and feel stuck. Yet, you simply have to do something!
It doesn’t matter what you do as long as you
take some form of action! Do something to shift your life.
Get a new job, clean out your closets, retire
a relationship that’s draining your energy, schedule your trek in the
rainforest, move to a new city you love, join a group of like-minded boomers,
volunteer to help people in another country, go back to school for fun or for a
new career, take a dance class to learn to tango.
The unrest that occurs at this period is
about sorting out and separating who you are becoming from who you have been.
It is a time for deep introspection, and for exploring how you want to live
this part of your life and how you want to become more authentically who you
are.
These suggestions will help you get unstuck
and get to your next step:
Step One: Schedule a quiet time to think about some of the
questions maturing boomers must confront as they approach middle age, such as: Do
I want to spend the rest of my working life in my present career? What
would a career change mean at this point in my life? What changes can I
begin to make now to ensure better physical and psychological health for the
rest of my life?
Am I really happy
and content with my daily life now?
Step Two: Get clear about what you want for your life.
Develop a personal
profile that highlights several areas: Your pleasures, your dream job or
career, the subjects about which you want to learn more, your strengths and
your areas for improvement.
Here’s a way to
make your personal profile come alive: put together a picture board that
displays all the things to which you are drawn or for which you have a passion,
such as: a healthy body, gardening, resting at a spa, sailing, or a peaceful
landscape. Cut photos from your favorite magazines to illustrate your passions
and paste them on your “dream board.?
Give yourself
permission to get in touch with your suppressed vision of who you truly are and
how you want your life to actually be.
Step Three: Identify Obstacles and Outdated Beliefs
Do you have
limiting thoughts that are holding you back?
Your set of
beliefs, thoughts and lifestyle habits, which include your food choices, your
form of exercise, your sleep patterns and stress level, can be an obstacle for
living a healthy lifestyle. What are your thoughts and limiting
behaviors?
Step Four: Take Action to Make Permanent Change
It is not enough
to just verbalize or visualize your goals. You must have a plan and take steps to create what you want!
Action Steps:
Write down your goals and action steps to achieve them during the next 3
months. Identify your strengths and areas for improvement in following up with
your plan.
Step Five: Get Help to Hold Yourself Accountable
To help you
manifest your goals and dreams, I recommend that you create accountability
by finding a buddy, hiring a coach , or joining a group with like-minded people
to help you reach you goals.
About the author
Joyce Dillon, RN, MN, is a midlife expert, coach, author and
CEO of Healthy Living and Balance. She is a pioneer in the field of healthy
aging, empowerment and midlife transition. Teacher of transformative education
for women, spa and Costa
Rica retreat leader, and author of Embracing
Your Soul’s Calling in Midlife. Learn more at
http://www.Healthylivingandbalance.com/ or at my blog http://www.healthyboomerlifestyles.typepad.com
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